Whether you're saying something sensual, making raunchy remarks or sharing a wild fantasy, you don't want your carnal comments to sound forced, so just share the sexy thoughts that pop into your mind rather than trying to rack your brain for something racy. And remember, you don't need to talk the entire session, let alone every time you're doing the deed. Conquer your nerves by starting simple. Tell your guy that you like the way he's touching you, saying something like "It feels so good when you stroke me like that.
Sex talk advice: How do you discuss fantasies with my husband?
It's been said time and time again: communication is key for relationships to work. But while talking about your feelings or coming to a compromise may not be too much trouble for you, sometimes being open about sex with your significant other is way easier said than done. Laura Deitsch, Vibrant's resident sexologist , tells Bustle. Unfortunately, we live in a culture that still shames having sex for pleasure. As Sunny Rodgers , a clinical sexologist and certified sex coach tells Bustle, that's created fear over sexual communication in relationships. But while we may have those fears around sexual communication, research shows how important it really is. A study published in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy found that talking about sex with your partner is positively linked with relationship satisfaction.
How To Tell Your Partner That You’re Not Happy With Your Sex Life
You know lusty language can be hot, but where to begin? With this advice from erotica writer Rachel Kramer Bussel. The women I know seem to have no trouble whatsoever with being dirty. But talking dirty can instantly induce performance anxiety.
Get an exercise book and on one page write requests to your partner, while the opposite page is dedicated to responses to the requests. Get an exercise book and on one page write requests to your partner, while the opposite page is dedicated to responses of the requests. It is important that you both fully engage with the process so that the two of you can voice your feelings equally. By placing the book somewhere that is easy for you both to look at and checking it daily, you can ensure that you are both voicing how you think your relationship is going.